Vacation Time

My family and I have always tried to go on a vacation together at least once a year. Between the four of us, our lives are pretty crazy with work, school, sports, and other responsibilities. So once a year, we pack up and go on a much needed vacation together.

In my last blog post, I discussed the importance of “Me” Days which are important to finding balance in life. But I believe that vacations are also a vital part of finding balance in life. Vacations are needed so that we can get away from everyday responsibilities and take a break. Vacations don’t have to be to a far place for a long period of time, but I think that it is necessary to get out of town and escape your responsibilities for a couple days.

This year, my family and I decided to head to the east coast and visit Boston, New York City, and Washington D.C. My family and I are die hard Red Sox fans, so we decided to follow the Red Sox and attend a game at Fenway Park, Yankee Stadium, and Nationals Park.

Fenway Park

We began our vacation in Boston and were in the city for 3 days. We have a lot of family just outside of Boston, so we were able to visit with family members who we had not seen in almost 10 years. My Uncle Michael took us to Gillette Stadium (we are also die hard New England Patriots fans), Cape Cod, and even out in the Atlantic Ocean on his new boat. On our last night, we went to Fenway Park and did a tour of the stadium and then watched the Red Sox beat the Angels 9 to 5. This baseball game was probably our favorite of the 3 because we got to see J.D. Martinez hit a 3 run homer.

Yankee Stadium

From Boston, we took the train to New York City. That night, we had dinner close to Times Square and then saw Aladdin on Broadway (which was amazing). If you haven’t seen a Broadway play in New York before, I suggest adding it to your bucket list. The next day we took a motorized scooter tour of Central Park. Our family went to New York a couple years ago and felt that we had done pretty much everything except Central Park. The scooter tour was a perfect way to see most of Central Park in a good amount of time. That night, we took the subway to Yankee Stadium and watched the Yankees completely destroy the Red Sox 9 to 1. We wanted to see the Red Sox beat the Yankees at their home field but it was probably the best for us Red Sox fans since Yankee’s fans can be brutal.

Nationals Park

The next morning we took the train to Washington D.C. That night we did a Segway tour of most of the monuments. The Segway’s were surprisingly super easy to navigate and the tour was great. We got to see everything from the White House, the Washington monument, and even the FBI Headquarters. I do have to say that Washington D.C. in July is unimaginably hot and humid especially for people who are used to the dry Reno heat. We did go to Arlington National Cemetery, but for the rest of our time in D.C., we decided that being inside was best. My family and I went to the Holocaust Museum and the NEWSeum during our time in D.C. and both museums were incredible. On our last night, we took the metro to Nationals Park and watched the Red Sox beat the Nationals 5-3.

My family and I concluded that our vacation was the vacation full of different forms of transportation. We took planes, trains, subways, a boat, a motorized scooter, and even a Segway throughout the east coast.

Vacations are an amazing time and a great way to take a break from responsibilities and find balance. If you haven’t taken a vacation in a while, I suggest you start planning one now.

How do you find balance? Comment below and let me know!

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“Me” Days

Have you ever felt like you have been going non-stop for months? That you are constantly running on 5 hours of sleep and 2 cups of coffee? That you’ve been so busy that you could shut down at any moment?

I think that we have all been there. We have all had so many things going on in our lives that we haven’t been able to sit down and relax and do something for ourselves in months. And how could we have time to relax? We all have work, school, and many other activities on our plate that we have to get done or attend.

But this is when people start to burn out.

Like I mentioned in my blog post “High Achiver Land” – Lindsay Boccardo , I live in “High Achiever Land” and I’m always going to find a task, accomplish it, and move on and find a new task to accomplish. But high achiever or not, no one is superman and no one can go on for months end without rest. That is why everyone needs a “me” day every once in a while.

Last semester, I began to feel that I was burning out. I felt that school was becoming so overwhelming, I was almost always running late to work, and all the duties I had to complete for being president was getting to be too much. I think it is important to be able to recognize that for yourself and know that you have had too much and just need a break, even if it is just for a day. So I decided that instead of having a break down from being too overwhelmed, I needed a “me” day.

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A “me” day can consist of anything, as long as you are able to refill, reboot, recharge, relax, and recover. I think it is easy to get caught up in being there for everyone else, but we need to remember how important it is to be there for ourselves too. A “me” day can be anything. It can be treating yourself to a manicure or pedicure, going on hike with your dog, taking yourself out to dinner, and even going to see a movie. A “me” day can be having a movie marathon with your friends, going home and seeing your parents, or even going to a coffee shop and reading a book.

This past Friday I took a “me” day and took off work, put away my school stuff for the day and went on a hike down to Tahoe with my mom, brother, and dog. It was nice to get a break from my responsibilities and spend time with my brother before he heads off to college.

I have realized that taking a “me” day is really important for finding my balance. And hopefully after reading this article you will think about how important “me” days are, and that you should take one too.

How do you find balance? Comment below and let me know!

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Softball to a Sorority

Growing up I played softball from the time I was 6 years old until my senior year of high school. I loved the game. I played in the Sparks Fastpitch league until I wanted to get more competitive and play travel softball. This meant that I would travel to places like Northern California, Southern California, Oregon, Utah, and Oklahoma to play in tournaments. Being on a travel team meant longer and harder practices, extra hitting lessons and workouts, and being out of town for a tournament pretty much every weekend. But it also meant playing the game I loved, hanging out with my teammates in hotel rooms, and having so much fun.

As I grew up, softball came with me. In high school I continued playing on various travel teams and I began playing high school softball. I made varsity my sophomore year and during my time as a Reed Raider, my team and I won three regional titles and a state title my senior year (which was awesome and one of my favorite memories from high school).

My good friend Leah and I after winning regionals in 2014

But once I finished my senior year season of softball, that was it for me. And it was hard for myself and my family to not have softball in our lives anymore. We had built so many friendships and had so many great memories built around softball so it was sad. Softball brought me leadership, structure in my life, competition, and most importantly it brought me friendship.

I started my freshman year of college at the University of Nevada, Reno as a former softball player who was ready to immerse myself in the college culture. I lived in the dorms, took 15 credits, got a job, and of course made some really great friends.

But something was missing.

Here I was with all this new responsibility, this new freedom living on my own and I was bored. In high school I had always been overly involved and here I was in college feeling like I had too much time on my hands. I felt that my balance was off and I knew I needed to change it.

In the second semester of my freshman year I went through spring recruitment and I joined my sorority, Sigma Kappa. The sorority immediately brought structure to my life. There are weekly meetings that each member is required to attend along with other mandatory events.

Leah and I after I joined Sigma Kappa in Spring of 2016

Sigma Kappa then brought me leadership. In the fall of my sophomore year I became the Vice President of Philanthropic Service. This meant that I was a member of the executive council of the sorority and that I would be putting on 2 major philanthropy events along with helping my chapter get involved with the community. Some of our volunteer work included raising money for the Alzheimer’s Association, volunteering at Arbors Memory Care, and the Food Bank or Northern Nevada. It brought me even more leadership when I was elected president of the sorority for 2018.

Sigma Kappa even brought me competition. I get to play softball again in Tri Delta’s Triple Play philanthropy tournament where all proceeds go to St. Jude’s. Sigma Kappa has won the last 3 years in a row and in this tournament I am able to put my cleats back on and let my competitive side come out.

But most importantly, Sigma Kappa has brought me friendship. If I went on about each friend Sigma Kappa has brought me, this blog post would be too long and everyone would stop reading it. My sorority sisters are my biggest supporters and are always there for me in a heartbeat.

What I can say though, is that Sigma Kappa has brought me so many great friends, memories, and a home (this isn’t in a cheesy way, I live at my sorority house and its amazing). I truly couldn’t imagine what my college of experience would be like if it wasn’t for me joining my sorority.

Softball and a sorority are very different from each other but they also have so many similarities. Both of them have brought balance to me during different times of my life and I am so thankful for both of them.

How do you find balance? Comment below and let me know!

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Becoming a Leader

I read something once that said, “calling yourself a leader and saying that you are a leader is rude”. And yeah, if I went around forcing people address me as “Leader Cassy”, then I can agree, that is rude. And I definitely don’t do that. But I do call myself a leader and I have worked hard to try and become one. I like to be in charge and having people look up to me is something that I strive for every day.

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When I was in 6th grade, I joined a traveling softball team called Line Drive. I was the youngest person on my team, and I was not a great softball player at all. My coach John McHenry was the best and so were my teammates. Line Drive did teach me how to become a better softball player. I became faster and stronger and I began to love the game so much. But during my time on Line Drive, I looked up to my older teammates, and my teammates, along with my coach, taught me how to become a leader.

When I was in 8th grade, Line Drive disbanded and I joined a new team, the Lady Aces. Now I was one of the oldest players on the team and I knew it was my time to become a leader and teach the younger teammates on the team how to become one. Every practice and game I worked hard to become that leader.

Since then, I have been captain of various volleyball and softball teams. I ran for senior class president, lost, and so I became the senior class historian in high school. In college, I became the Vice President of Philanthropic Service for my sorority Sigma Kappa in 2017, and I am currently the President of Sigma Kappa. I am also a committee head for business week for my club Business Student Council.

I am a leader. And every day I strive to be a better leader. Being a leader is something I am proud of, and something that takes a lot of time out of my day (especially being the president of Sigma Kappa). But being a leader is something that is important to me and it something that helps me Find Balance.

How do you find balance? Comment below and let me know!

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“High Achiever Land” – Lindsay Boccardo

Finding Balance

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The picture above is an accurate depiction of my life. I have always been that person that has many things going on in my life and some people think that I’m crazy (I showed my dad my color-coded planner the other day and I think he views me in a different light now). I am a senior in college double majoring in finance and business management. I work at the IT help desk about 15 hours a week during the semester. I am the president of my sorority Sigma Kappa. I am in a great club called the Business Student Council. And I love spending time with my friends and family.

I have always found that if I have too much of one thing going on in my life, I get burnt out and start to get in this “funk”. It’s like when you were younger and you have that friend that is always over too much and stays too long and your parents mention that your friend is “overstaying their welcome“. If I fill my day only doing school work, I feel that I do worse on my assignments and perform poorly on tests. If I hang out at my sorority house for a week straight and don’t see my parents, I find that I get in a bad mood (I love my sorority sisters, but try living with 30 girls and you’ll feel the same).

When I was in high school, one summer I filled my life with too much softball. I had practice 3-4 times a week, a hitting lesson a week, two additional fitness softball workouts a week, and then tournaments on the weekend where my team would play 5+ games a weekend. I started to burn out and perform badly which was frustrating. My mom said something that stuck with me one day in the middle of all the softball craziness. She said, “you like a balanced life, and your life has too much softball in it right now”. And she was right (well moms always are anyways). So since then, I have been aware that Finding Balance is very important to me.

My weekdays usually consist of classes, work, sorority events, and studying. So I really try to go to the gym during the week to get a break from all of that. And I call my mom a lot. On the weekends I still have sorority events, but I try to get more sleep, see my parents, and hang out with my friends too in order to balance out my week. After long days, I also watch an episode of FRIENDS before bed, just because it makes me happy.

I’m not writing this post to complain about being busy or one-up people who are busy as well. I just know that I am able to function because I balance different things throughout my weeks. I know that studying for 8+ hours on a Sunday isn’t going to work for me and I know that after sorority recruitment and spending 5 days straight doing Sigma Kappa everything, that I need to go home for dinner and pet my dog and visit with my parents. This is what helps me find balance.

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“High Achiever Land”-Lindsay Boccardo

Earlier this summer I attended my sorority’s convention in Ponte Vedra Beach, Florida. It was an amazing opportunity and I learned so much. From my convention, one person stuck out to me, and that was the keynote speaker Lindsay Boccardo. I thought Lindsay was an amazing public speaker and after I heard her keynote speech at the welcome banquet, I actually attended two of her workshops and one of them was about “High Achiever Land”.

Lindsay described that in “”High Achiever Land”, we like having many responsibilities, we never say no, we enjoy having people look up to us, and we put others before we put ourselves. Once we accomplish something, we find a new task, work hard to achieve it, and then accomplish that task. Us high achievers do this over and over and over and Lindsay said that one day we are going to burn out if we already aren’t.

As I listened to Lindsay talk about “High Achiever Land”, I started to get concerned that this lady was in my head and knew everything about me or something because that is exactly how I feel all the time. I am always doing more and adding more to my plate and setting new goals because I want to be better and I want to do anything and everything that I put my mind to.

So after listening to Lindsay, I accepted that I live in High Achiever Land. And maybe as you are reading this post you are thinking to yourself “wow I live in High Achiever Land also”. Or you might be reading this post and thinking “wow this girl is nuts”.

Personally, I don’t think that I am going to move out of “High Achiever Land” any time soon, but Lindsay shared a few tools that might help with not getting burnt out:

  • Celebrate your accomplishments! Call your mom, get drinks with your friends, or treat yourself to ice cream. Just do something!
  • Stop trying to fix everyone’s problems. You can be a good friend and be there and listen, but know that you do not need to fix these problems.
  • Say no. And know that it is okay to say no.
  • Take care of yourself and do things for yourself. Take a “me” day. Don’t check your email for a day. Get a pedicure. Just do something for yourself.
  • Get some rest. Know when you have had enough and go to sleep. You aren’t going to be productive at 2am anyways.

Thanks to Lindsay, I was able to understand that I live in “High Achiever Land” and that people are like me and that they are there too! Realizing this was a vital step for myself in Finding Balance.

How do you find balance? Comment below and let me know!

If you want to learn more about Lindsay or learn more about “High Achiever Land” visit her website. She is awesome.